wardrobe

wardrobe woes

by Lara on December 16, 2011

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We’re always talking about purging our closets, getting rid of clutter… all in the hopes of not becoming a hoarder and ultimately refining our style.

Why are we being so hard on ourselves about keeping things we like?

There’s that “1 in 1 out” rule where you get rid of something old when you buy something new. This can also apply to home decor items. I actually did this for a while with shoes and soon ended up playing games with myself… holding onto shoes I didn’t want anymore during the initial purge, just so I could use them in the next trade. Ha! The more I thought about it, it’s such a stupid guideline. I mean, how do you decide what the perfect number of things is? Is it based on space available? It it some arbitrary number you pull out of the air? What if you really don’t want to get rid of something? The only thing I see this working well for is your basics. Your fave white tee bites the dust so you toss it and get a replacement. That makes sense. This obsession with an ultra-minimalist lifestyle is kinda grating on me lately.

There’s the “If you haven’t worn it in 1-3 years, it’s time for it to go” rule. This one makes some sense to me but it still can’t be a hard and fast rule. What about formal wear? What about that fantastic skirt you simply adore and really want to hold on to? Is it hurting anything to keep it? What about wanting to hand things down to your daughter? Women’s weight fluctuates so much too so, I see nothing wrong with keeping a size up and down in your closet as well, just in case.

There are plenty of ladies who are pure collectors. They buy unique pieces and have amazing wardrobes of well-made items. Things go in and out of style so frequently, I wish I still had a lot of my clothes from 10 years ago. Frequently, I have purger’s remorse. If I had the closet space and the money, I would love a collection that spanned decades!

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There are those who subscribe to the French mindset of shopping – keeping a basic wardrobe of classics and only adding 3 or so key pieces every season. This makes you pause and really think about the look you want to achieve that particular season and what trends you’re interested in, carefully editing your shopping list. It allows you to shop a bit more extravagantly on a few quality items rather than a ton of cheap stuff. I have never done this – sitting down with a budget and list in mind, having everything else work around a few new pricier items, sourcing, buying them and being done. I definitely know when my wardrobe is missing a key item though. For instance, I’ve been on the hunt for the perfect brown knee boots for years. This Christmas I finally get them!

I kinda just get non-basic things as I see them. “Oh! I like those shoes! Oh! I like that sweater!” It’s all pretty compulsive and I don’t think much about how it will work with what I already have. That’s when you end up standing in front of your full closet and feeling like you have nothing to wear. I don’t think in terms of outfits. Well, when you pretty much wear jeans all the time… any sweater will go with anything but… you know what I mean.

 

So, how do you shop and approach your wardrobe?

 

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Ultra 10

by Lara on May 30, 2011

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The Ultra 10 collection is 10 items of clothing that become your core wardrobe for a year. All made-to-order and of organic and recycled fabrics, they will also mend and recycle your collection when you’re done with them – plus offer you a new set in a year at a discount. The total for the whole collection is $918.

You get what technically amounts to 15 pieces as a few are multifunctional because of length and zippers:

vest * backless top * cropped top * white shirt/dress * skirt * top/dress * stretch pants * cotton trousers * 2-in-1 blazer * 3-in-1 dress-jacket-skirt

 

I think this is a pretty interesting concept since this isn’t supposed to be an addition to your existing wardrobe. This is meant to be your core for an entire year. They’re encouraging buyers to participate in a challenge and share how you mix up the pieces. There’s currently only one participant.

I like the overall look of the pieces except for the crop top but; I couldn’t see myself wearing this as my core wardrobe for a year. The price really isn’t that bad when you think about it. Of course you don’t know what the pieces actually feel like or how they’re constructed.

I would worry about wear and tear, constantly laundering the pieces which will fade them, and basically being bored.

I’m also not the most eco-minded person out there, while I do love simplicity in my home. Then, the more I think about it, I do kinda go to my same fave pieces over and over. Could I make these new faves? I just don’t know. It seems more like the perfect travel wardrobe to me.

Could you do it?

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Last night I was trying to go to sleep, sweating, miserable, uncomfortable. This has been the norm for a week around here. Spring was short-lived and lovely in Richmond and it’s gone. Time for full-on humidity.

I used to love the heat. I still prefer it to frigid winter but last year, I officially decided that Summer and I are no longer friends.

So, while tossing and turning in bed, I thought about what I wanted to wear the next day to stay cool, since jeans have been suffocating.

This morning, I got dressed in a stretchy little skirt I bought in June of last year and had yet to wear!

I wore it with 2 tank tops – one tight white, one loose oatmeal – and gold flats. The bf came in and was shocked. You’re wearing a skirt! He proceeded to lift up said skirt. You haven’t worn a skirt for years!

Me – Yes I have! New Years Eve and your sister’s wedding in October.

Then I realized how sad that was.

I have more skirts and dresses in my closet than jeans yet, I never wear them. I keep buying them but I never wear them. I make excuses – I don’t want to mess it up, I don’t want to be uncomfortable, I haven’t shaved my legs, I just want to throw some jeans on and head out the door, this is too dressy to run to the grocery store…

Well, it’s all crap. I wore a skirt every day for 9 years of my life in private school, kicked ass and took names in them, and wore minis all throughout high school, and wore dresses constantly when I went out in my early 20s. What the hell is my problem? I’m sitting here in the skirt right now as I type this, as comfy as can be!

The fact that this skirt sat in my closet for almost an entire year without me wearing it is a testament to wasting money. All these pretty things just sitting there collecting dust. So what if I mess it up? At least it got worn and I looked cute instead of it going out of style before I got the gumption to put it on my body!

So, I’m going to challenge myself to wear every single dress/skirt in my closet this summer!

Do you have any fashion challenges you want to brave this Summer?

 

 

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enough

by Lara on January 25, 2011

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This blog post discussing having enough clothing, had the picture below from VogueUK. Granted, this is a stylist but it got me thinking about creating my own list. Holy moly. I keep doing this thing where I shame myself for what I have and what I buy. A lot of bloggers (including myself) have been doing shopping bans and purging their closets and only wearing 10 or so items of clothing over a month as an experiment in restraint. I’m getting a little sick of it all. If this woman can afford it then more power to her. Seriously. My main reasons for a shopping ban were to get my debt under control, save more money, get through the holiday present buying season without putting anything on credit, and to basically end my compulsive shopping habits and shop smarter. Done and done.

So, here’s my list:

2 watches, 10 jackets (blazers, etc), 60+ pairs of shoes (got rid of 80+ pairs in the past few years), 20+ casual dresses, 50+ pieces of costume jewelry, 5 of what could count as evening dresses, 20 sweaters (including cardigans), 8 pairs of trousers, 15 pairs of jeans, 5 coats, 30+ bags (including clutches), 3 swimsuits, 50+ tees and tanks, and striped tops? (10+), how about regular tops? (20+), what about skirts? (20+), tights? (20+), scarves? (8), undies? (no way I can count), hats? (hate em), lounge wear (omg)

This has been carefully edited and purged and replenished over years and years. Things wear out or go out of fashion or suddenly shrink! ;) I have sneakers and a pea coat from when I was 13, dresses I haven’t worn in years but refuse to part with… it is what it is.

So what if you get yourself a little treat? So what if you get another pair of shoes or your 5oth skirt? We get things that don’t have a real purpose except to be beautiful all the time. I just got some rock crystal formation to sit on a shelf because it’s pretty. We choose a more attractive design over utilitarian all the time. I like my turquoise frying pan and my vegetable peeler with the red Swiss cross on it way better than a boring plain one. I didn’t pay any more for them either and so what if I did?

If you’re still able to pay your bills and shopping isn’t affecting your life negatively, then by all means dammit, get whatever the hell you want!

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wedding weekend

by Lara on October 13, 2010

in fashion

After realizing I can’t fit into most of my nice clothes anymore (more on that later) and trying to figure out what to wear to meet my bf’s extended family, attend a wedding, have a family breakfast on Sunday, and be comfortable in a car for a total of 12 hours… this is an approximation of what I’m wearing this weekend.

The brown belt will go over the draped sweater, the jeans are jeggings, the dress is a brown strapless tea-length with no belt or buttons, and the polka dot top doesn’t have ruffles. I hope the grandparents approve.

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Fall basics and shopping bans

by Lara on October 2, 2010

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I previously wrote that I was having a fashion crisis, that I didn’t have enough cute tops, that I was having a horrible time putting things together, and that I was having donation remorse.

Well, I sat down this evening and dug around on Polyvore finding visual equivalents to the basic items that make up my wardrobe. I felt that I needed to see everything in front of me, so that I could assess what was needed to fill in the gaps.

Here are my favorite basic pieces, already in my possession, that I plan on wearing this Fall.

This is a good representation of shapes and colors I gravitate towards. 2 pairs of jeans are shown but I have plenty more. 2 blazers are shown but I have about a dozen. I won’t even admit how many skirts, dresses, shoes, tights, scarves, bags, clutches and pieces of jewelry I have.

I am ashamed that I was complaining about clothes. I have plenty, considering these are just my basics. These are my go-to pieces that always get me through when I can’t think. I need to shut the hell up. You know what else I need to do? Shop my damn closet, be a little more creative, and a little less lazy.

I think the constant bombardment of new fashion trends (if you’re into keeping up with those things) can make you feel inadequate. For crying out loud, I’ve been following the Spring trends for NEXT YEAR and hemlines and silhouettes are a-shiftin. It makes you feel like everything you have is going to look dated. Then, I started thinking, WHO THE HELL CARES? Classic shapes are always in. Honestly, everything is always in. Seriously. It’s becoming such a joke. I don’t work in the fashion industry in New York. Who the hell am I trying to impress? My life doesn’t require I dress up often at all.

Of course, it’s a lot of fun staying on trend and being current, thinking how you can work new looks into what you already have. I truly enjoy keeping up with new design and fashion shifts but I don’t need to make such a personal connection to it. I have definitely put more focus on getting classic pieces so I have a good core wardrobe.

Last month, for all of September, the ladies at Looks Good From the Back imposed a no-shopping ban on themselves and were successful. I tried to do the same and only bought a few nice pieces at thrift stores and a grey cardigan on clearance at Target and spent about $50 total, including alterations. I am officially stating right now that I will not buy a single article of clothing this October! Let the games begin!

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fashion crisis

by Lara on September 20, 2010

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I have been RABID about getting rid of things. I don’t like my life being complicated or cluttered. I can’t have my valuable closet space (it’s soooo small and sad) full of things I don’t wear or don’t want to wear. Minds and styles change though and I think there may be such a thing as over-simplifying. I have purged too much, when I could’ve stored things at my parents’ house.

Saturday, when getting ready for a local lady meet-up, I had a complete fashion crisis. I have no cute tops! I am completely serious. How did this happen?

I don’t have to dress up for my job and I really shouldn’t for the things I do. I wear basic v-neck tees or tanks and jeans with various flat shoes pretty much every day. (In the winter I throw on a hoodie – more on that crisis some other time.) On the weekends to run errands, I keep things simple as well but throw on some fun jewelry and let that, my bag and shoes do all the work. I’m lazy.

I have plenty of formal dresses, day dresses and skirts galore. Why do I buy stuff I never wear? I have problems that I’m actively working on. For some reason, the days that would be perfect to show my legs, I haven’t shaved my legs, nor do I want to. Trifling, I know. I just love pants soooo much! Fall and Winter is much easier. Excuses excuses.

And about those skirts… I never plan outfits when I buy something. I just automatically assume any skirt can be paired with a simple tee or tank and a fun belt. For summer maybe. Either way, I hardly ever wear skirts so this whole skirt issue is moot. I just don’t think of those complicated outfits you see with a skirt, top, belt, cardigan, jacket, tights, shoes, hat, jewelry, etc. I love those looks when I see them in magazines but the practical side of me has always found the layers and careful crafting, cumbersome and a bit ridiculous. I need to get over it but, I also need the pieces.

Soooo, this Saturday, I was meeting a bunch of women for the first time and I wanted to look casual but cute in jeans and heels. I mean, c’mon! I usually don’t try on a ton of stuff before settling on something to wear. Not this time. It was one of those miserable moments every woman has where she suddenly discovers she hates everything in her closet. I discovered huge gaps, outfits that were incomplete, things that didn’t fit anymore… I almost had a meltdown. I really had to lie down for a second.

Other than regretfully purging things that have come back in fashion, another part of the problem is TOO MUCH JERSEY! All my life, because of my disproportionate chest size, I have been pushed into buying tops with some stretch, or things that are a bit too big. Woven stretchy cotton tops fade fast, pill fast, get random holes… and as soon as they start getting funky I toss them. I may be a bit too strict in my standards of what kind of wear and tear is acceptable but, that’s not changing. I may be boring but I’m not going out looking like a slob.

The cute affordable jersey tops I’ve bought end up getting tossed soon anyhow so, where is the value in saving a buck? Are there better t-shirt material tops out there? What do I need to look for?

I need to start looking harder for more crepe or satiny silk and rayon blouses, get things with more polish, that wash well, don’t stretch or shrink, and don’t need to be ironed after hanging in my closet for a while. I need to start tailoring things in the waist if it fits in the bust and shoulders. I will just say no to jersey for a while and for god’s sake, I need to start re-embracing patterns again.

This is my mission.

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Fall roundup

by Lara on November 17, 2009

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Here’s a collection of items from previous posts that tickled my fancy for this cold weather season and beyond! I’m chipping away at this list. Almost halfway there!

satin elastic ankle pants

circle scarf

knee high wedge boots

motocross jeans

foldover boots

colorful lace tights

tigers

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a wearable top 30 for 2010

by Lara on November 11, 2009

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It’s barely Fall and all the Spring 2010 shows were a month ago. The over-saturated coverage has come and gone and now the Christmas advertising has started. I avoided the Spring shows like the plague and made a few short mentions of random things that managed to catch my eye. Now, I have finally looked at it all and I am left with a sense that not much is new.

Here are my top 30 realistic picks for Spring 2010 from the RTW collections. All look completely comfortable and wearable. I will tell you that I looked at every single collection on Style.com and I found that most of the Spring offerings fell into a few categories.

  • Short, tiny cocktail dresses. So many little dresses for teeny tiny women!
  • Dresses really were the prominent item and the knee length shifts started to get a bit boring.
  • Ridiculous brights and outrageous prints all mixed up, that take a special woman to pull off. I’m not one of them. Polka dots, stripes, a bit of plaid, florals of course, and abstract prints also stood out.
  • The same minimalist architectural pieces and beautiful draping we’ve been seeing for a while now, which I’m totally fine with. So many designers are going the way of Lanvin these days.
  • Boxy looks that made the models look broad and stumpy- cropped jackets with cropped pants and ankle boots? No. Big shapeless dresses sans belts were everywhere as well. Strong shoulders are still in. Wide wide wide.
  • The usual classic looks such as ultra ladylike, mild safari, the same punky/goth stuff we’ve been seeing from the usual suspects, and denim but not much. (Ralph Lauren used enough denim for everyone.)
  • A whole lot of low cut, a lot of leg, and a TON of sheer and lace. Way more nipple than I needed to see.
  • White, black and white and black… a lot of red, blues and orange.
  • One shoulder looks, drapey jumpsuits, cropped pants of all widths, shine everywhere, drop crotch pants (no thanks), tailored shorts, leggings (still),  flowing pants, and light silky charmeuse layers (loving this).
  • Short skirts with long panels were all over the place. Not feeling it.
  • Big necklaces, big bags, big purses, big shoes, strappy heels, and damned ugly hats.

Spring is all about freshness and while not much that I saw was really innovative, I’m feeling a slight shift of focus in the trends towards more soft elegant pieces and away from the dark harshness that’s been flooding the fashion blogs lately. I’m thankful. So, even though Spring is so far away, by actually taking the time to look at all the collections quietly and slowly over a few days, it has kind of refreshed my heart. Fashion has grown to be a bit boring for me lately and I know I’m not the only one who’s been crying out for more pretty.  I’ll be thinking about these beautiful pieces from now on when putting together outfits and making future purchases. I’m ready to make some subtle changes to my wardrobe and work new things in slowly. So, this is my well-edited list of things I could see myself throwing on and feeling instantly at ease right off the bat. No tugging, no hyper awareness of my body… just good old relaxed style… and I found A LOT of stuff…

all pics via style.com

No doubt, the Ports 1961 collection was lovely and wearable but not much really stood out to me. The fabrics were gorgeous and everything was nice. Yes. Nice. It was all very nice. I really didn’t want to show anything from this collection because it was all so innocuous but it can’t be left out because of the simple elegance and versatility of all the pieces. (I supose Rachel Roy would go into the same category of nice.)

This simple outfit from Celine is so clean and fresh. Loose fitting white top. Short black skirt, leather or not. Easy.

Keeping with the crisp black and white theme is this Derek Lam dress and a Nicole Farhi graphic top and wide pants.

Kenzo makes my signature perfume Amour and I think the line’s genius is highly underrated. I adore this breezy white offering. This is an ensemble. I don’t know if I would always pair the separates together (unless it’s a jumpsuit, which would be rad). Not sure what kind of butt coverage you’re really getting here but some shorts could fix that. I think a lot of us are nervous about wearing something so obvious but really, what’s the big deal? It’s perfectly elegant. Seriously love this and the shoes compliment it perfectly.

Jason Wu has been stealing my heart lately. This could not be better for a date night. I had a difficult time picking just one dress from his collection because they are all so very wearable. Check the rest here.

Plaids aren’t usually my thing but I love the shape of this Pollini dress, the gentle mixing of plaids, asymmetrical hem, and draping give it a modern appeal. Seeing it with those killer shoes has given me a fresh perspective on this pattern.

Can I get an amen for this palest mint Douglas Hannant maxi dress?! I’m so short, every long dress I’ve bought needed to be hemmed, which had begun to deter me from buying them. Then I see one so elegant and it makes me forget about what a pain it is to sew sometimes.

L.A.M.B. was a bit too rocker glam for me this time around but, what do you expect? This outfit though… I could wear this every single day and be outrageously comfortable and confident, after switching out the belt with my own wider studded one.

There were a lot of full hipped pants and unless you’re rail thin, I can’t think of any woman who wants to add width to her hips. What about just one hip so everyone knows what’s really going on? These asymmetric pants by Nicole Miller swayed me. Paired with the corset-esque top keeps it slim. I really want to hunt down these pants and try them on.

This abstract print by Giorgio Armani is right up my alley. Blue and red together usually seems childish to me but not this time. This whole look would be so easy to affordably replicate. Perfect for a hot day, comfortable, effortless, and just the right splash of red.

If I were to pick one wild print from any of the collections, it would be this simple dress from Josh Goot. It is a piece of art. Minimal accessories needed. It would be a blast to wear.

The only super formal dress that knocked my socks off was this ultra flattering Martin Grant evening gown. Showing leg is so much more alluring than blatant cleavage.

This has become my new favorite color. A more muted acid puke green that goes so well with earth tones, white, black and all shades of grey. Love the delicate detailing by J. Mendel.

Like the intricate detailing above, you can’t help but admire the ingenious construction of this Bibhu Mohapatra dress.

I can’t do a post without including my all-time fave Lanvin. Don’t even need to say how difficult it was to pick just one. Good grief it’s lovely!

Fashion Fringe is new to me. I was floored by their dresses and had to include three. Just imagine the feel of that fabric against your skin!

These two dark outfits are more in line with what’s been in style lately. The light bleach wash effect on skinny jeans has been everywhere but Elise Øverland’s take with the delicate top and gold platforms takes it to a new level of feminity. Jeremy Laing’s modern outfit is also a lot less harsh. Love those delicate pieced leggings!

There weren’t many earthtones at the shows. I used to wear a lot of browns and I’m looking forward to revisiting the color soon. The blazer and shorts look is prominent for Spring. Pringle of Scotland put together a lovely outfit. The very ladylike Gary Graham draped skirt ensemble is so office appropriate.

Tibi was really pretty and a lot of fun. The pattern on this dress reminds me of a painting done by the stippling technique at a Richmond restaurant called Avalon.

A lot of designers were sectioning off the body into three distinct regions, something I’ve been a fan of for a long time. When patterns and color blocking were used, the oufits shortened the models. The monotone Issey Miyake is lengthening and slimming and looks really cozy. The Naeem Khan embellished tunic with wider bouclé (or are they beaded?) pants also looks soft and comfortable. I would love to pull off something like these for winter.

More monochromatic offerings in my favorite color! While I wouldn’t wear the bra top, I love the softness and ease of thin layers making up this Akris outfit. The silver Michael Kors skirt is subdued enough for day wear and the extra details on the shoulder turn a basic v-neck into something really special. The Donna Karan day dress could not be more perfect.

Last but not least are the ankle ties and bright blue slim trousers by Prabal Gurung. I think this is adorable  but still clean and simple… very very wearable but whimsical. That blue is one of my favorite colors.

I hope this leaves you inspired. Phew! I’m DONE!

Previous Spring 2010 RTW posts - Doo.Ri, Givenchy’s shoes,  and Dennis Basso.

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I went shopping yesterday, and at Urban Outfitters especially, I kept seeing things that I had over 5, 10, 15 years ago and I was having major remorse over letting some things from my past go.

I part with things really easily but, I’m kinda sick of my current wardrobe right now and would love to have a few things back to reinterpret.

  • tulip shaped black skirt
  • black velvet leggings
  • black vinyl pants
  • leopard skinnies
  • vintage embroidered cardigan
  • mom’s vintage jungle animal tee
  • so many pairs of stripper platforms (goth days)

platforms

  • vintage combat boots bought unworn from an army surplus store
  • so many belts
  • high waisted pencil skirts
  • vintage “infinite dress”
  • over the knee boots
  • fox stole (with the head and feet and tail, from my grandma)

fox stole

  • tiger coat
  • those vintage red mary janes from my Courtney Love phase
  • ankle boots galore
  • open knit black tunic sweater
  • so many long skirts that could be hemmed
  • a few pairs of Victorian style heels
  • about 30 perfectly worn in flannel shirts
  • corsets
  • motorcycle jacket (hand painted Skinny Puppy logo and all)

sp

 

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